Saturday, October 17, 2009

How We Perceive Friendship

Our lives are about relationships. Friendships are relationships that are perceived differently by almost everyone I know. Sometimes expectations are high. Sometimes they're not.

How we write and how we use characters in our stories depends on how we feel in our hearts and minds and souls. It's easiest to create characters based on our own experiences. We have all had deep wonderful friendships. Unfortunately, most of us have had friendships that have left us feeling betrayed or heartbroken.

So, with that in mind, fill in the blanks in the following two sentences:

Friendship means _______________________.
It doesn't mean __________________________.

Feel free to use your own variation of the two sentences.

Teachers: You can see how this writing exercise can be used across the curriculum. Begin the exercise with a lot of conversation. You go first and share about a special friendship you have had and what it meant to you!


DJan said...

Friendship means listening to the other person with an open heart.

It doesn't mean taking advantage of that open heart.

Suzanne Jones said...

Friendship means compromise and selflessness

It doesn't mean being a doormat

Terri said...

Friendship means loyalty.
It doesn't mean betrayal.

Amber said...

Friendship means "What we can do for them"
it doesn't mean "What we can get from them"

2cats said...

Friendship means always loving but sometimes not liking.

Friendship does not mean breaking a trust.

Tweedles -- that's me... said...

Friendship means caring about someone else's feelings, more than your own.

It does not mean hurting someone.

AL said...

Friendship is something that you give to the other person without asking anything in return.

Friendship is not selfish.

Lily Robinson said...

Friendship means I'll help you do it.
It does not mean I'll do it for you.

Anonymous said...

Friendship means you are your friend's biggest cheerleader, but you tell them the truth.

It does not mean having an agenda.

Tweedles -- that's me... said...

Friendship means truly listening with both ears.

It does not mean judging.

Sandy said...

Visiting all Bridge Team Members this am.

Friendship means taking the good with the bad, overlooking faults. A true friend is a gift, one to be cherished.

There's a saying I've always liked,
Friendship is a gift you give yourself.


^..^Corgidogmama said...

Friendship is where common interests open a door, and sometimes, blooms into a connection that gives you both something needed.

Dr Jenn said...

Friendship is forever
It does not only happen on the sunny days

Carolyn said...

Friendship means finishing the course together
it doesn't mean giving up at the first (or even the second) hurdle

Jan Mader said...

What insightful and inspirational feelings you have about friendships.

You could use these ideas to form a character and you could also use the opposite of these ideas to create an antagonist for the same story.

Let's keep going for another day!

JustMeAndMyTeddyBear said...

Friendship means not caring about another persons faults, and only viewing them in a positive light.
It doesn't mean shunning someone or being mean.

2cats said...

Friendship is when you know it is OK to call in the middle of the day to a friend who home schools.

Tweedles -- that's me... said...

Friendship is something that develps when you trust someone.

Friendship is weathering the storms together,
even when the tidal waves come.

Friendship means you try your hardest to understand.

Friendship mean to accept someone as they are.

It does not mean turning you back and walking away.

Jan Mader said...

Friendship means no matter how far away someone is they can always be close to your heart.

Friendship doesn't have to have a just is.

Tweedles -- that's me... said...

I loved what you said.

ocmist said...

Friendship means someone who helps when you need it.
It doesn't mean someone you’ve seen “around.”